Toleration.....
Aug. 30th, 2013 01:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mdehnersis something I have less-n-less every yr. It may shock readers that once upon a time I was a crystal-carrying Fluffy Bunny with a RAGING case of White, liberal Guilt. Those days have been gone(thankfully) for DECADES. What did it? Experience X Time.
Funny thing. The decreased/ing Toleration isn't for groups....it's for INDIVIDUALS. The major point is that I'm no longer as willing to Excuse Woeful Behavior by folks. I used to bend over backwards giving excuses for them and their actions. Usually, better than they did. But over a few DECADES of dealing with shallow, childish, self-absorbed people, I've pretty much lost all that "Bunnies & Light" I had back in the late 70's-early 80's.
I'm not saying I'm now a FULL Misanthrope(maybe once or twice a week;>) but even a military condom can only be used so many times before it breaks.
I admit a lot of it got burned off when I started to get Ill and had to go on Disability. It's reeeeaaaalllly hard to work up sympathy for folk's complaints when my life was/is so much harder; Health-wise AND Financially. Esp. when you're the one who's given them support...repeatedly.
I actually do try to work on my Compassion. I realize that someone whose suffering from their 1st painful injury is going to be less Tolerant of Pain then someone who's lived for yrs in Chronic Pain. It's just when they try to make your Pain less important than yours that it really gets me.
Cheers,
Pat
Funny thing. The decreased/ing Toleration isn't for groups....it's for INDIVIDUALS. The major point is that I'm no longer as willing to Excuse Woeful Behavior by folks. I used to bend over backwards giving excuses for them and their actions. Usually, better than they did. But over a few DECADES of dealing with shallow, childish, self-absorbed people, I've pretty much lost all that "Bunnies & Light" I had back in the late 70's-early 80's.
I'm not saying I'm now a FULL Misanthrope(maybe once or twice a week;>) but even a military condom can only be used so many times before it breaks.
I admit a lot of it got burned off when I started to get Ill and had to go on Disability. It's reeeeaaaalllly hard to work up sympathy for folk's complaints when my life was/is so much harder; Health-wise AND Financially. Esp. when you're the one who's given them support...repeatedly.
I actually do try to work on my Compassion. I realize that someone whose suffering from their 1st painful injury is going to be less Tolerant of Pain then someone who's lived for yrs in Chronic Pain. It's just when they try to make your Pain less important than yours that it really gets me.
Cheers,
Pat
