May. 4th, 2014

mdehners: (nazgul)
I have to admit a "wee" amt of Amusement with a number of friends and acquaintances both in Cyber and Midgard "dealing" with becoming Conscious of their own Mortality, esp. since so many "twitted" me when I did. Back in the 1980's.
There's a point in one's Life that Mortality as a Concept leaves the Abstract. For most folks, it's in their 40's and after. Me, being in the 1st Wave of The Plague began in 84 with the death of my ex of 4 months(who'd I'd been with for 3 yrs before)and ended with getting one of the 1st aids tests in Utah the same yr I'd my 1st bout of Thrush. At the time I was Wiccan(what now is called Traditionalist, Alexandrian Descent)and even those in their 40's in the Coven couldn't "get" my focus on "Death and what Comes After". 'Course, they were old hippies so;>....
Over the yrs I've gotten generally light-hearted "ribbing" about what I consider "Prepping for the Inevitable". It's hardly surprising that most Americans avoid ANYTHING to do with Death(even Goths beyond the superficial trappings)so their attitude wasn't/isn't surprising. But now, with the "Greying" of Alt.religious...
I think the hardest FOR ME to comprehend are those that can't Understand why I'm so non-plussed about it(this from even some of those that used to twit me ABOUT the subject;>).

1:You "deal" with ANYTHING for a couple of decades and you've DEALT with the subject;>

2:I actually BELIEVE. What I think is happening with a number of folks is that the Idea that there may be Consequences to their Actions and not both Working Out their Childhood Religious Issues AND being ____ "just because" is hitting home. I've a number of folks who've been Active for decades in the Pagan community that have returned to their Childhood Faiths after their 40's(just as a number of Queer Spirit Folks did during the Plague Yrs...It wasn't just about having Fun anymore).

3:I've done the Work...in EACH of the Ways I've been part of since the 80's.

4: I've Done The Work...I've Followed my Way's Ethical System as best I could. I may not Know my EXACT Destination but ALL of them would be Welcome.

I think the saddest bit is those who've realized that they didn't really Believe after all, that it was "just an Adventure". While that much is certainly True, that's NOT ALL IT IS TO ME. It isn't a fun hobby or a "lifestyle" like SCA. It IS my LIFE and that AFTER.
Cheers,
Pat

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