"Principal's Office";>.....

[mdehners]

Got an e-mail from my SIL about lunch with her and my brother tomorrow. Normally,this would be a "Good Thing" but since Chuck quit his job and Sandi decided to go "Talk To" them...I've a touch of trepidation about the whole thing,esp. since my folks who live a couple blocks away were not Invited.
They mean well, don't get me wrong BUT they tend to treat us more like children than actual chronological elders. It's not an Uncommon phenomenon. Pretty much EVERY Disabled person gets it from some folks. It's as if being unable to Physically Work means you're too Stupid to Work.
For the last almost 4 rs we've done everything a Gay Worker in Florida CAN do to deal with Workplace Bullying and with 3 months left before being Elegible for SSI, he'd had ENOUGH. There's NOTHING that they could do that we hadn't but that's not the point. The Point is that no matter what a Disabled person does, there will be folks that assume that their Disability prevents them from doing what THEY would...even those raised the same way.
Hopefully, it'll be a lovely lunch and my Worry is over nothing.
Cheers,
Pat

Comments

[ravan]

Oh, eyeroll! I hope they come back and say "The place is scared shitless that you guys are going to sue them, here's some cash."

[heethen_crone]

Fingers crossed lunch goes well.

[mdehners]

Depends on your viewpoint. They made Chuck feel guilty about the loss of household income and told us after lunch that they'd made an appt with Chuck's old boss. Basically, they focused on the incident, not the 4 yrs that lead up to it, blamed most of it on Chuck's disability and Gayness("you know how Sensitive they are..."). Sandi's newage need for "Balance" had her agreeing that the bully had "valid issues" and even lied in a couple of points as so to make her less of a villainess.
So, Chuck's now right back where he was before(his 1st shift back is today at 1400) except that both of us have had our Self-Worth kicked in the teeth.
Family;>.....
Cheers,
Pat