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mdehnersStarting Monday we begin Hospice for Mom. Her Doc had us all come in to the hospital yesterday(and for an MD to do something on a weekend showed it was serious)to give what, when I was still working as a Nurse as the "That's It" Talk. If it was just her kidneys, she could live for years on Dialysis but with her Congestive Heart Failure added to it, the best she could hope for is maybe a yr of misery. So she chose to stop Dialysis and let Nature take it's course.
Personally, my only fear is that Mom's, well a "wimp". She's never had much tolerance of discomfort of ANY kind. If she think's she's uncomfortable now, when the Toxins build up in her system OR/AND when the fluids build up in her lungs she'll be much more so. I think she's got the whole "Peaceful Leavetaking" thing in her head and as someone who used to do Hospice Nursing....that isn't always the case. Also, both her and my SIL keep thinking they'll be basically keeping her "high". Neither CHF or Renal Failure are diseases that Opiates are generally prescribed. But, as I've known for YRS, no one takes me seriously.
Both Chuck and I are OK with her Choice. She's had a GREAT Life(1st Woman EMT in Utah, World Traveler, etc)and has nothing to look forward to except bedrest until Leavetaking. For someone who was Tap and Belly-Dancing in her late 60's and was still Dancing until her late 70's this level of Inactivity is Unacceptable to her.
How long Dad sticks around AFTER is another thing. No one in the family thinks it'll be very long. They've been Married almost 60 yrs after all....
Cheers,
Pat
Personally, my only fear is that Mom's, well a "wimp". She's never had much tolerance of discomfort of ANY kind. If she think's she's uncomfortable now, when the Toxins build up in her system OR/AND when the fluids build up in her lungs she'll be much more so. I think she's got the whole "Peaceful Leavetaking" thing in her head and as someone who used to do Hospice Nursing....that isn't always the case. Also, both her and my SIL keep thinking they'll be basically keeping her "high". Neither CHF or Renal Failure are diseases that Opiates are generally prescribed. But, as I've known for YRS, no one takes me seriously.
Both Chuck and I are OK with her Choice. She's had a GREAT Life(1st Woman EMT in Utah, World Traveler, etc)and has nothing to look forward to except bedrest until Leavetaking. For someone who was Tap and Belly-Dancing in her late 60's and was still Dancing until her late 70's this level of Inactivity is Unacceptable to her.
How long Dad sticks around AFTER is another thing. No one in the family thinks it'll be very long. They've been Married almost 60 yrs after all....
Cheers,
Pat
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Date: 2015-04-26 06:57 pm (UTC)Cheers,
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