"The Talk".....
Dec. 21st, 2016 01:18 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mdehnersIt's how I label that conversation that all couples reaching, as a British Comic once put, "That Tender Lady Time of Life" should have....what happens when.
Ours is more complicated with Chuck's Head Injury. Not that he doesn't Understand, it's that until recently the problems with my family instigated unintentionally by my mother made the consequences of me Passing 1st twist my stomach.
Now that my SIL knows that what Mom told her about Chuck SUPPOSEDLY to make them more likely to help get me to move back here wasn't true(well, about HIM;>)and Chuck knows that she knows, much of the BS between them is gone. For her anyways. Chuck sadly still has scars so he still has Trust Issues with her, which is understandable.
If He Passes 1st there's no problems, other than my Sadness. If I do, My family will take care of the Cremation and I really don't want a funeral. Just take my down to the beach and sprinkle. Then the "fun" begins"....
Until yesterday, he had it in his mind that they were going to "lock him up". I had talked to them and their plan is to find him a retirement or group home. When I explained that it was "More like 'Waiting for God' than 'One Flies' over the Coo Coo's nest" he calmed down. I even told him if he wished they'd find him a place back in his hometown of Philly. Both he and I feel better now.
It's been one of my biggest stresses and now that, at least at the moment everything's going well I don't have to be.
About THIS. January's only a couple week's away;>
Cheers,
Pat
Ours is more complicated with Chuck's Head Injury. Not that he doesn't Understand, it's that until recently the problems with my family instigated unintentionally by my mother made the consequences of me Passing 1st twist my stomach.
Now that my SIL knows that what Mom told her about Chuck SUPPOSEDLY to make them more likely to help get me to move back here wasn't true(well, about HIM;>)and Chuck knows that she knows, much of the BS between them is gone. For her anyways. Chuck sadly still has scars so he still has Trust Issues with her, which is understandable.
If He Passes 1st there's no problems, other than my Sadness. If I do, My family will take care of the Cremation and I really don't want a funeral. Just take my down to the beach and sprinkle. Then the "fun" begins"....
Until yesterday, he had it in his mind that they were going to "lock him up". I had talked to them and their plan is to find him a retirement or group home. When I explained that it was "More like 'Waiting for God' than 'One Flies' over the Coo Coo's nest" he calmed down. I even told him if he wished they'd find him a place back in his hometown of Philly. Both he and I feel better now.
It's been one of my biggest stresses and now that, at least at the moment everything's going well I don't have to be.
About THIS. January's only a couple week's away;>
Cheers,
Pat
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Date: 2016-12-21 10:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-12-22 02:50 pm (UTC)Cheers,
Pat
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Date: 2016-12-22 01:34 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-12-22 02:51 pm (UTC)Cheers,
Pat
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Date: 2016-12-22 05:46 pm (UTC)And I'm glad you have a potentially more or less satisfactory fallback for Chuck if you do pass first, rather than a total nightmare.
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Date: 2016-12-23 04:42 pm (UTC)Cheers,
Pat