Transfolk....
Jan. 22nd, 2019 03:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mdehnersINCOMMMMIIIINNNGGGG;>!
Just kidding;>. But for some reason in the last month or so I keep getting asked about the subject. Probably because I'm the only "Out" Gay person most of them know. I've been answering them thus:
I met my 1st "Out" Trans person in the early 90's at our local GLBT support group. He was a Het man who was stationed at the local AFB as a fighter pilot. We were the only local group he could at least get folks who'd have some idea of what he was going through. I moved away for a couple yrs and when I got back he had Transitioned. Changing Sex did not change her Orientation. She had been attracted to women before and still WAS. Her wife stayed with her and now they are to the outside world the nice Lesbian couple down the street.
The FTM/Trans men I've known have been the same. As Females they were attracted to men and after Transitioning they were now technically Gay. The reason I bring these up is that for some reason(and it may simply be the demographic of my friends; over 30...WAY over;>!) they think Trans folks are Gays or Lesbians that want to "fit in" and are changing sex to be "Het". So far ALL my family and Het friends think this way(those that've asked about the subject. By pointing out my examples I hope to at least get them to question their Beliefs. Wishful Thinking....).
On the OTHER question(s) I keep getting asked. I consider Trans kids(those before Puberty) to be no more my "bidness" than Dance and Pajent kids. As long as it's their idea and they're having fun . If it's YET another mother using their kid for attention or to live through....NO. Before Puberty I didn't know I was Gay but I DID know that I didn't "fit" with the other boys so it's quite possible that they may be Transfolk in "embryo". Or they may not be. As long as they're Loved, whatever they may grow up to be will be OK.
Cheers,
Pat
Just kidding;>. But for some reason in the last month or so I keep getting asked about the subject. Probably because I'm the only "Out" Gay person most of them know. I've been answering them thus:
I met my 1st "Out" Trans person in the early 90's at our local GLBT support group. He was a Het man who was stationed at the local AFB as a fighter pilot. We were the only local group he could at least get folks who'd have some idea of what he was going through. I moved away for a couple yrs and when I got back he had Transitioned. Changing Sex did not change her Orientation. She had been attracted to women before and still WAS. Her wife stayed with her and now they are to the outside world the nice Lesbian couple down the street.
The FTM/Trans men I've known have been the same. As Females they were attracted to men and after Transitioning they were now technically Gay. The reason I bring these up is that for some reason(and it may simply be the demographic of my friends; over 30...WAY over;>!) they think Trans folks are Gays or Lesbians that want to "fit in" and are changing sex to be "Het". So far ALL my family and Het friends think this way(those that've asked about the subject. By pointing out my examples I hope to at least get them to question their Beliefs. Wishful Thinking....).
On the OTHER question(s) I keep getting asked. I consider Trans kids(those before Puberty) to be no more my "bidness" than Dance and Pajent kids. As long as it's their idea and they're having fun . If it's YET another mother using their kid for attention or to live through....NO. Before Puberty I didn't know I was Gay but I DID know that I didn't "fit" with the other boys so it's quite possible that they may be Transfolk in "embryo". Or they may not be. As long as they're Loved, whatever they may grow up to be will be OK.
Cheers,
Pat
